Monthly Archives: March 2017

In My Weakness is My Strength: Answering the Call to Prison Ministry

by Jessica Rinaudo

God often calls us to serve in unexpected ways. We resist, shrug it off, tell God that it’s too hard, but the Lord can be persistent and surprising. It can be especially challenging to answer the call to service when that service is something as intimidating as prison ministry.

Deacon Burt Ainsworth was introduced to prison ministry by Fr. Richard Pusch, an Air Force priest.  “Fr. Pusch was like a brother to me. Over the years, I started going to the prisons with him. When he died, I made a commitment that I would follow him as much as I possibly could,” said Deacon Burt.

The diaconate and the Air Force pulled Deacon Burt away from prison ministry for a time, but after retirement, he pursued it again. One evening, prison minister Holly Wilson invited Deacon Burt to join her at David Wade Correctional Center. That evening, after Bible study was over, Holly surprised everyone, including Deacon Burt, by announcing that she was retiring from prison ministry and he would be taking over.

“Lord, you know I can’t do this by myself,” said Deacon Burt. “Please, if it’s possible, send me some help.”

Van Sanders was living in Albuquerque, New Mexico when the Lord started tugging at him. His wife was very involved with prison ministry and wanted him to join her, but he wasn’t ready. Then one day Van’s priest, Fr. Doug Mitchell, spoke to him after reconciliation, “Out of the blue, he said, ‘Have you ever thought about prison ministry?’” Van recalled.

Fr. Mitchell’s invitation put Van on the path to prison ministry. He first visited a prison geriatric unit, and then became part of “Encounter,” a weekend-long faith event for men in jail.

Van, born in New York, eventually moved to Louisiana to be near his wife’s family. As a member of Our Lady of the Blessed Sacrament Parish in Shreveport, Van received an email from his deacon asking if he might be interested in helping Deacon Burt Ainsworth with prison ministry.

And just like that, Deacon Burt’s prayers for help were answered by way of Van Sanders. Now the two of them, along with Mary Morgan and Chris Leach, work together to serve the men of David Wade Correctional Center. Both Deacon Burt and Van see themselves as instruments of the Lord, insisting that the important part of prison ministry is allowing Christian men to come together inside the walls.
Every Wednesday, Deacon Burt and Van travel to David Wade to lead Bible study or assist with Mass.

Prison Ministers Van Sanders and Deacon Burt Ainsworth

“When we started out about a year ago, we had about five or six guys in the class,” said Deacon Burt. “Now we’re up to just under 20. We talk about how the Gospel of John affects our lives, and how it talks to them especially… It’s their conversation. We’re not trying to put anything into them. What’s there, we’re trying to draw it out.”

Van added, “Sitting in the classroom, it’s not just Catholic men. … So the men have these books they can study. When they come in, they’re primed and ready to go. We sit, and we talk. … We don’t always have the ready answers, so sometimes lessons last three or four weeks. Deacon asks them, on occasion, to write prayers, which is really good because that’s another way of developing them as men. They also have prayer cards and prayer requests. We bring the prayer requests out and put them on the altar.”

Deacon Burt emphasized that recruiting men to join them in Bible study is extremely difficult.  “This is something that’s very important for people on the outside to understand. Why can’t you get more people involved in prison ministry? It’s because for those who don’t believe in the Gospel, who don’t believe in Christ, they see these guys as weak, so the men who attend Bible study get picked on tremendously. … They really put up with a lot just to come to this class.”

“We tell them, you’re a Christian community,” added Van. “As a Christian community your job is to evangelize the other 1,200 men in this compound. And the prisoners say, ‘They look at us as being weak.’ I said, ‘Remember what Paul says, ‘in my weakness is my strength,’ so you just keep doing what you’re doing.’”

Deacon Burt and Van have met many men who have done terrible things over the course of their service in prison ministry. If it seems like it would be difficult to minister to these men, it’s even harder for the prisoners to allow themselves to be seen as worthy of forgiveness.

Van shared a story that has stuck with him that is especially relevant and powerful during the Lenten and Easter season.

“During Lent, in New Mexico, we would always show The Passion of the Christ, and there’s a scene in it where Jesus is all chained up, and he’s walking up the steps with two guards on both sides. And when we were inside the prison chapel doing the lessons, you could look out the chapel windows and see the men in yellow, the men in segregation. And as they moved, they always had to have the belly chains, the ankle chains, the wrist chains. They were all chained up. And I would tell the men, ‘Look outside the window, because remember we’re all made in the image of God, now look at that man, look at all those people around him. Who does that remind you of?’ Some would guess, some wouldn’t know, but one would always say, ‘That’s Jesus.’ That’s exactly how Jesus was presented to Pilate. Remember one thing: Jesus has so much in common with you and you have so much in common with him. Yes, he did not sin, but we do and we did. Remember that he knows your pain and when you think of your mother, remember the Blessed Mother knows what it’s like to have a son on death row.’”

“You begin to realize that yes, they’ve committed crimes and they’ve done some things that are bad,” said Van, “but God forgives them. All they have to do is ask for that forgiveness.”

But going inside the walls of a prison and working directly with those inside is not everyone’s calling. Van shared a story of ways other ministries help prisoners’ families.

Deacon Burt Ainsworth greets a prisoner at David Wade Correctional Center during an Advent dinner at the prison hosted by St. Jude Parish.

“One time I was doing prison ministry and also working with St. Vincent de Paul. … Then we had an Encounter weekend and one man had a really hard story to tell. He told his story. And then on that Saturday night, he broke down and started crying. He asked, ‘Is there anyone here who works with St. Vincent de Paul?’ And there were three of us… And he said, ‘I especially want to thank you guys because of what you did for my family. You didn’t know me, and I didn’t know you, but you helped my family survive while I’m in here.’”

Van later added, “A lot of times there are men and women who leave their family because they are incarcerated and the family does time with the men or the women who are in prison. And so, it’s like when they get locked up, the family gets locked up. And if the one who gets locked up is the breadwinner, then the family is going to struggle. And that’s where St. Vincent de Paul can come in and they can find those people who have someone that’s incarcerated and they can help that particular family.”

Deacon Burt added that when men get ready to leave prison, often the only clothing available to them is whatever they had on when they entered jail. – usually it’s a sweat suit or an old pair of jeans. There is a real need for decent clothing. Recently Catholic Charities provided clothing to David Wade including sports coats, slacks, dress shirts and shoes. Because men re-entering society are required by law to have a permanent residence and a job, these clothes go a long way in helping men prepare for a new life. Consider donating these types of clothing items to Catholic Charities.

By listening to God’s plan for their lives, Deacon Burt and Van have not only helped those inside prison walls, but have been transformed and challenged in their own spiritual lives.

“Some of the prisoners come at us really hard because we’re Catholic, but what’s amazing is that when they come at you, you have to be able to look at them say, ‘I understand what you’re saying, but look in the mirror, because guess what? When you look in that mirror and see your image there, remember that’s the image of God, because you’re made in His image and He loves you. He loves you with all His heart, no matter what you do. If you come to Him seven million times asking for forgiveness, He’s going to forgive you seven million times.’”

There are many ways to answer a call to prison ministry – whether it’s inside or outside the walls. Talk to your parish priest or deacon, or contact Deacon Burt Ainsworth at, Van Sanders at, or Deacon Clary Nash at  •

In Review: Feeding Your Family’s Soul by Donna-Marie Cooper O’Boyle

reviewed by Jessica Rinaudo

Click here to download a sample chapter!

As Lent approached this year, I struggled not with what I would give up, but with what I could do to bring my faith more fully into my daily life. It’s easy to mutter a prayer at bedtime, half asleep, after surviving another day of work and taking care of four children. It’s much harder to carve out a time in my busy life to actively learn more about my faith and share it with my family.

As I prayed about it, a review copy of Feeding Your Family’s Soul by Donna-Marie Cooper O’Boyle found its way onto my desk. After a quick flip-through, I knew this book was my answer.

Feeding Your Family’s Soul is meant to be a tool for re-claiming your dinnertime and your spiritual life with your family. Broken into 52 chapters, one for each week of the year, O’Boyle asks that you bring this book to the dinner table. Each chapter contains a prayer to be read aloud by a family member; a “Dinner Table Teaching;” reflection questions that invite response from the whole family; a closing prayer to pray together and a prayer to pray throughout the week during dinner. There is also a Theme Extension option, which includes a tangible way for family members to live their faith during the week. And as a fun bonus, this book is chock full of delicious recipes!

Armed with Feeding Your Family’s Soul, I went home and prepared to engage my four young children and husband in faith discussion. Although the book says you can mix up the chapters as you see fit, we started at the beginning with the discussion on “Loving Your Neighbor.” After saying the prayer, I let everyone start eating while I read the teaching and asked reflection questions. My six-year-old immediately and enthusiastically jumped into the discussion, bringing to the table some surprising and thoughtful wisdom. Even my three-year-old had suggestions for ways to be kind to others.  And while my two-year-old twins didn’t have much to bring to the conversation, I was pleased that they could witness our prayers and listen to all of us joyfully talk about God, Jesus, the saints and being kind to others.

My six-year-old was only disappointed that there weren’t more questions to discuss, so we decided to take on the extra credit assignment of learning more about St. Teresa of Calcutta and discuss her life over the course of the week, and even make the soda bread listed in the chapter.

Topics covered in the book range from saintly wisdom to Gospel lessons and practical ways to live your faith everyday to explanations of sometimes confusing aspects of the Catholic Church like the Communion of Saints, for example. Recipes too range from pizza and cookies, to salmon and side dishes – most with an eye to picky eaters.

And lest you think this book is just meant for young children, be assured that the prayers and discussions are applicable for toddlers to teenagers and yes, even we parents who sometimes think we already know it all.

In her introduction to the book, O’Boyle says that she and Mother Teresa formed a 10-year long friendship and their discussions gave her fresh insight into some things many of us take for granted.

“Mother Teresa told me that my children were very fortunate to live in a family. She was accustomed to picking up abandoned children out of dustbins and taking care of them,” said O’Boyle. “She often spoke about the importance of being present to one’s family and of being sure that all of the needs are met there in the heart of the home before going off to serve God someplace else – whether it be on a committee, in a mission, or wherever.”

Feeding Your Family’s Soul is a fantastic tool for helping to meet the spiritual needs of all the hearts in your home.

A Message from Bishop Duca

Appeal Sunday occurred on February 26th; and thanks to the generous support of our faithful, we are off to a good start on this year’s campaign.  If you have provided your pledge to this year’s Appeal, you have my sincere appreciation. Thank you and God bless you for your support.

Please know that we still have a long way to go before we reach our pledge goal of $1,500,000.  The month of April is a critical time each year for our Appeal, as follow-up efforts are taking place in each worship location to secure additional pledges to this combined effort to serve the needs of the people of our diocese.  Please take some time now to consider your pledge to support our array of Appeal ministries. A pledge card can be found on page 30, and you may use this to facilitate your annual gift to our Appeal.  Those making pledges this month will receive their first Appeal statement in the month of May.

U.S. Bishops Chairman on Migration Says New Executive Order Still Leaves Many Innocent Lives at Risk

from the USCCB

WASHINGTON—The Most Reverend Joe S. Vásquez, Bishop of Austin and Chair of the USCCB Committee on Migration, says that President Trump’s latest Executive Order still puts vulnerable populations around the world at risk. In a statement issued after the announcement of the day’s travel suspension, Bishop Vásquez says that while we seek to maintain our values and safety, we must also exercise compassion in assisting and continuing to welcome the stranger.

Bishop Vázquez’s full statement follows:

We remain deeply troubled by the human consequences of the revised executive order on refugee admissions and the travel ban. While we note the Administration’s efforts to modify the Executive Order in light of various legal concerns, the revised Order still leaves many innocent lives at risk.

The removal of one of the original seven predominantly Muslim countries temporarily barred from entering the United States is welcome, but we are disappointed that the revised order maintains the temporary shutdown of the U.S. refugee admissions program, continues the more than 60 percent reduction in the number of refugees who can be resettled into the United States this year, and still temporarily bars nationals from six predominantly Muslim countries from entering the United States.

The U.S. Catholic Bishops have long recognized the importance of ensuring public safety and would welcome reasonable and necessary steps to accomplish that goal.

However, based on the knowledge that refugees are already subjected to the most vigorous vetting process of anyone who enters the United States, there is no merit to pausing the refugee resettlement program while considering further improvement to that vetting process.

The United States has long provided leadership in resettling refugees. We believe in assisting all those who are vulnerable and fleeing persecution, regardless of their religion, including Christians, Muslims and all others. We believe that by helping to resettle the most vulnerable, we are living out our Christian faith and “welcoming the stranger” as Jesus has challenged us to do.

Today, more than 65 million people around the world are forcibly displaced from their homes. Given this extraordinary level of suffering, the U.S. Catholic Bishops reaffirm their support for, and efforts to protect, all who flee persecution and violence, as just one part of the perennial and global work of the Church in defense of vulnerable persons. Resettling only 50,000 refugees a year, down from 110,000, does not reflect the need, our compassion, and our capacity as a nation. We have the ability to continue to assist the most vulnerable among us without sacrificing our values as Americans or the safety and security of our nation.

USCCB Chairmen Call on Congress to Consider Moral Criteria During Debates on Health Care Policy

WASHINGTON—As Congress prepares to discuss possible changes to the Affordable Care Act, the chairmen of four United States Conference of Catholic Bishops’ Committees called on lawmakers to consider important moral criteria, especially pertaining to the most vulnerable among us, including the unborn and those experiencing deep poverty. The Bishops of the United States have consistently advocated for a health care system in which—as the late Cardinal Francis George used to say—everyone should be cared for and no one should be deliberately killed.

In a letter from March 8, 2017, Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan of New York, chairman of the USCCB Committee on Pro-Life Activities, Archbishop William E. Lori of Baltimore, chairman of the USCCB Ad Hoc Committee for Religious Liberty, Bishop Frank J. Dewane of Venice, Florida, chairman of the USCCB Committee on Domestic Justice and Human Development, and Bishop Joe S. Vásquez of Austin, chairman of the USCCB Committee on Migration, urged Congress: to respect life by preventing the use of federal funds to facilitate abortion or purchase health care plans that provide abortion; to honor conscience rights; and to ensure access for all people to comprehensive, quality health care that is truly affordable.

The Bishops called on Congress to ensure coverage for those who now rely upon it after the passage of the Affordable Care Act, and expressed concern about any structural changes to the social safety net that could impact access to health care for millions. Noting that the Catholic Church “provides health care, purchases health care and helps to pick up the pieces for those who fall through the cracks of the health care system when it fails,” the bishops urged “a new spirit of cooperation for the sake of the common good” on this vital concern during the debates ahead.

The full letter is available at:  •

Kids’ Connection: Saint Maximilian Kolbe

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Good Friday Way of the Cross

19th Walk for Justice

by Brian Burgess

As Americans we are called to stand with justice, yet it is not often that we have the opportunity as an individual to make a clear and decisive public statement in support of this essential virtue.  This Good Friday, April 14, you have such an opportunity!  We invite you to join others throughout Shreveport in proclaiming justice and mercy in a very public forum by a special “Way of the Cross” that seeks to unite the suffering of Christ with the suffering that exists in the world today.

This Good Friday remembrance will begin at 9:00 a.m. at the First United Methodist Church on Texas Street in downtown Shreveport.  Local social justice and service organizations will offer prayers, hymns and reflections at each of the 14 stations. Participants will walk a little more than a mile through downtown Shreveport while stopping at various sites (stations).  This annual devotion focuses on the passion of Christ as reflected in the eyes of those who suffer abandonment, abuse, illness and poverty – those in need we are called to serve.

The Society of St. Vincent de Paul is the sponsoring group. Those interested in attending this ecumenical service should gather by 9:00 a.m. on Good Friday in the parking lot of the First United Methodist Church. The service will last approximately an hour and 40 minutes and ample parking is available at the church.

A Reflection on the Memory of Father Bernadine Hahn

by Kathy Lenard

I am blessed to have known Fr. Bernadine Hahn. He instructed and mentored me at a crucial time in my life. We developed a bond, a truly treasured friendship, for which I am forever grateful.

Fr. Bernadine was the priest at Our Lady Help of Christians (OLHC) in Bastrop, LA for more than 20 years. He was the principal at the school, father, teacher, mentor and friend to everyone he met. Fr. Bernadine could always be found helping the less fortunate, trying to make the quality of life better for everyone at the church and school, as well as in the community which surrounded the church and school. I served as President of the PTO and treasurer of the Sisters of the Holy Family under his tenure.

Fr. Bernadine is the reason I became Catholic, and the reason my husband and children became Catholic. He seemed to always be there for his parishioners and students. He would appear around the city of Bastrop, blessing homes, counseling, assisting and enjoying a day fishing. My fondest memory of Fr. Bernadine is of him being adamant about building a new church. He pioneered the construction of the new OLHC church and subsequently the Father Pat Memorial Gymnasium during his tenure in Bastrop. However, his accomplishments were significant in every community he served. He accomplished many good deeds during his time on earth.

When his time ended in Bastrop, he packed his things, and with all of us in his heart, he moved to St. Louis. However, we never lost touch with each other. During the time he was still driving he would visit Bastrop, rekindling friendships and memories of old. Even though his visit was for pleasure, he spent his time blessing homes. He never missed an opportunity to bless a home, item or grave. That’s the type of priest that he was, faithful and faith-filled. “Father B” was a wonderful person who will always have a special place in my heart and those of many individuals in the Bastrop community.

Fr. Bernadine lived to be 101 years old. I had the opportunity to visit him the year he turned 100. My current pastor, Fr. Lijo Thomas, had heard so much about him that he wanted to meet him in person. A group of us visited St. Louis. What a wonderful trip and experience it was to be with Father B again. He said Mass for us and accompanied us to our site-seeing excursions. We had lunch and dinner with him and shared photos of his time in Bastrop.

Fr. Bernadine entered the Franciscan Order in 1936 and was ordained a priest in 1943. He was a Franciscan for 80 years and a priest for 74 years! All of us in Bastrop mourn the loss of Fr. Bernadine Hahn.

Fr. Lijo Thomas, Fr. Al Jost, OFM and Fr. Thomas Elavumkal, CMI presided over a Memorial Mass celebrated for Fr. Bernadine Hahn at St. Joseph Parish, Bastrop on February 15.

Embrace Life and Age with Joy

by Sr. Martinette Rivers, OLS

We all know that some people enjoy life more than others, but why can’t we all enjoy the journey? Fully alive human beings see a beautiful world and smile as they taste the deliciousness of every moment. Their laughter helps them to be open to the whole human experience, wonder, awe, tenderness and compassion. There’s color and joy in their lives, and the sounds of laughter and celebration. They are fully open to pain and pleasure. They dream, love, hope, cry and laugh. Others ask, “What’s in it for me?” Abraham Lincoln said, “People are about as happy as they decide they want to be.” You get what you put in it.

If you have no joy in your religion, there’s a leak in your Christianity somewhere. My joy and experience of God as a Catholic nun has been deepened as the years pass me by. I like living with people who I can laugh with as I grow older. These good laughs keep me very human. Laughter is so infectious and helps me discover the unknown. Not only do I enhance my life with prayer and laughter, but it reminds me of a Roman candle exploding and bursting with sparkling lights and spreading its light in all directions. Pretty good image don’t you think? It relieves our lives of stressful moments and enriches others so much.

I tend to agree with Frank Loyd Wright, “The longer I live the more beautiful life becomes.” Our aging should motivate the world and those around us because we continually look for the joy that keeps us motivated. Each moment of our day is shaping us for heaven tomorrow.

Pope Francis said, “The joyful heart always grows in freedom.” Keep the channels of your heart open and let it laugh, let it cry. Don’t bottle them up; let them flow freely.

What is it like to wake up each morning thanking God for another day and being filled with joy? Certainly it’s not just about having more fun, but a “turning towards others” and being totally engaged with the world.

“The more we turn towards others, the more joy we experience, and the more joy we experience, the more we can bring joy to others. The goal is not just to create joy for ourselves but, as the Archbishop [Desmond Tutu] poetically phrased it, ‘to be a reservoir of joy, an oasis of peace, a pool of serenity that can ripple out to all those around you,’” The Book of Joy.

Aging is the one thing that happens to everyone. We are here today and gone tomorrow. That does not mean we can’t be fruitful or productive. We are walking on God’s sacred, aging ground. There is nothing we have that He hasn’t given us. We must dazzle the Lord moment after moment by planting spiritual seeds of love, laughter, joy, peace, kindness, gratitude, prayer, helpfulness, service of any kind and positive thinking.

As we age, time flies. Let’s make haste while we have time left! I can almost see God smiling at us as we age day by day.

The Harm of Pornography and Hope Beyond Addiction: Spouses

Series written by Katie Sciba under guidance of Fr. Sean Kilcawley, STL

This is the third article in a four-piece series on pornography; the first two can be found in the January and March 2017 editions of the Catholic Connection.

Because pornography addiction is more prevalent in men and spouses of addicts are more commonly women, the respective pronouns he and she are used. Regardless, pornography addiction is found in both men and women, and spouses of addicts can be husbands as well as wives.

“Pornography use within marriage severely damages the spouses’ trust and intimacy both because of the pornography use itself and because of the deception and lies usually involved in one spouse hiding […] behavior from the other” (Create in Me a Clean Heart, USCCB).

Wedding vows carry significant implications. The words “I take you as my husband…” and “I take you as my wife…” convey acceptance of the whole person, and the conjugal act is a reiteration of the vows through the body. There is no love without truth, and so there must be truth in the marriage bond.

Pornography is an obvious problem for the addict, yet leaves some spouses struggling to put their finger on why its use causes so much pain. St. Paul says our bodies are not our own, but belong to our spouses. “The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does…likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does” (1 Cor 7:4). The reason many spouses feel betrayed when they discover their partners’ pornography use is that the addict uses what rightly belongs to their spouse in isolation for personal pleasure or emotional regulation. Masturbation and pornography violate truth in the marriage bond because they withhold sexuality from the spouse. Conjugal love is the most concrete manifestation of the gift of self promised on the wedding day, and any misuse of our sexuality is a violation of the wedding vows.

The rollercoaster of pornography addiction inflicts feelings confusing enough to make a wife feel legitimately crazy. The fantasy involved in pornography leaves a spouse feeling rejected both physically and relationally. There’s often a strong sense of fight or flight, leaving her wondering what she needs to do — whether she and her husband should try counseling or if she should leave altogether.

The hopelessness and helplessness are isolating. It’s common for the wife of a pornography addict to distance herself from her husband or conversely, to experience hyper-bonding – the inclination to cling to him emotionally and physically. She may detach socially because she feels alone in her husband’s addiction or “because her marriage no longer feels safe,” says Dr. Kevin Skinner, Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist. “If the most intimate relationship she has doesn’t feel secure, there’s a resulting general distrust of others.”

The stress can manifest physically and neurologically leading to insomnia, depression, anxiety, and chronic melancholy. “I see a lot of eating disorders among women, or there’s a tendency to become hyper-focused on exercise because they feel the need to compete,” said Dr. Skinner. “There’s an ensuing chronic fatigue because the body is in a state of constant stress…if a wife is in fear of her husband acting out, that she’s not being told the truth, it increases her fight.”

With all of the above occurring within one person, it’s no wonder many spouses of addicts develop Betrayal Trauma or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder as a result.

Betrayal Trauma and PTSD involve recurrent, intrusive thoughts, memories or dreams that won’t go away; avoiding people, situations or locations she previously enjoyed or places that may trigger anxiety; a negative mood and the tendency to be hyper-vigilant of her husband’s behavior.

The pain is real. Coping with a spouse’s addiction to pornography is an emotional and psychological burden that often goes unvalidated because the appropriate role of a spouse is difficult to discern. Questions like “How am I supposed to feel? What do I say? Am I crazy? Am I not enough? Is our whole marriage a lie?” can make balance in her mind and relationship hard to achieve.

“You have to be able to understand what you’re experiencing,” said Dr. Skinner. “If you don’t understand, you can’t recover.”

The healthiest action a wife can take is to seek help.  “A pornography addiction is not only ‘his problem.’ Beginning her own healing is a way to further healing in the marriage,” says Fr. Kilcawley, STL, theological advisor for As with addicts, seeing a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a spiritual director and having communal support is the most effective way to begin and continue recovery. Local CSATs can be found through

Through recovery, the spouse of a pornography addict will learn to heal within herself and with her husband; and the greatest hope comes in knowing God is present to open the hearts of both husband and wife to restore them to love and peace.

Resources – Books
•  Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal: The Essential Tools for Healing by Dr. Kevin Skinner
•  Shattered Vows: Help and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed by Mark and Debra Laaser
•  Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means
•  Mending a Shattered Heart by Stefanie Carnes

Resources – Online
• The Integrity Restored Podcast
• The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert Podcast
• Love Rice Podcast by Bloom for Women